Could you tell me about your background and how that led you to teaching children?
I have had a wonderful range of difference careers and occupations over the years and I’ve loved every one. From childhood part-time jobs on the chicken farm, riding school smallholding through to being a civil servant, pub landlord, dancer /dance teacher and stay at home dad to two wonderful children. I find it very interesting that all the different roles I’ve held in the past led me to teach young children… we talk about transferable skills but these are more than just to be able to make spreadsheets. Life skills, an understanding of human nature are far more important. It was a natural progression, a concept I talk about a lot.
Could you tell me more about ‘Boys do Ballet’, what is it and why you decided to incorporate it into your lessons?
This came from a comment from a little boy who told me he wanted to be a ballet dancer but couldn’t because boys weren’t allowed to do that. I was still concerned that anyone of such a young age could already have this view that I arranged for a male ballet teacher to attend the school the following day and teach all the boys ballet. This then continued and I wanted it to be a regular opportunity for all hence we included it. We also arranged for a female police officer to come into the school. I talk to children openly about how things used to be in the past but also how they’ve changed and both boys and girls have the same opportunities – all children have the same opportunities. Breaking down barriers and challenging has to happen in visible practise.
I was still concerned that anyone of such a young age could already have this view that I arranged for a male ballet teacher to attend the school the following day and teach all the boys ballet.
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You’ve spoken to me about the concept of ‘self-validation’ for children. Why is this important and how do you instil this in the kids you teach?
Yes, I feel this is a really important concept – encouraging children to self validate rather than seek validation from external sources. No one in life can make you truly happy unless you are happy yourself. They can add to your happiness but the feeling that you are unique and you are special and that you have great ability from within will set you up for a much happier life. In young children I believe in learning for a purpose- “I can write my name so I can sign my thank you card”. “I can read so I can learn about things I like”. In young children we use positive affirmation, and useful praise.
Why did you decide to become a parenting coach? Could you talk about this?
Over the years of my 22 years as a nursery teacher and headmaster I have seen most things and answered a plethora of questions guiding parents through their child’s early years. I have this enormous Bank of knowledge and I wanted to put it to good use. I became aware that I was giving more advice to parents and it actually made me realise how much I know – it is an extension of helping children develop and achieve when you can input into parenting.
I have this enormous Bank of knowledge and I wanted to put it to good use. I became aware that I was giving more advice to parents and it actually made me realise how much I know
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Why is parenting more challenging today than it was in the past, and what advice would you give parents bringing up children in today’s world?
The world is changing enormously over the past few years. Over the past decade it’s changed at a faster pace than we have seen before, and we are catching up as parents. Screen time has become an enormous factor for example; children’s television has changed from calm, restricted and educational to loud, colourful, overwhelming and continues 24/7. Then we wonder why children behave badly after they’ve been overstimulated. Peer pressure, Instagram fuelled impossible expectations of what family life is really like. Parents need to set their family goals, values and boundaries bearing in mind that your relationship will change with your children as time goes on.
children’s television has changed from calm, restricted and educational to loud, colourful, overwhelming and continues 24/7
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You mentioned that teaching adults is more challenging than children. Could you talk about this?
Children have fewer inhibitions, there are some who describe it as a blank screen. Adults come with perhaps more self doubt and hesitation of trying new things. I taught dance to adults for many years and it was the confidence to try over ability that determined who learned best.
If you could pass on one piece of life advice to others, what would it be?
The Roman philosopher Seneca supposedly said that ‘we suffer more in imagination than in reality.’ I wish that I had understood this in my younger days – I would have worried far less.

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